You Are Not Your Ego

4.14.14 Lotus flower with person

As discussed last week, I am still focusing on being more present in my life and hope you have begun to do the same.

I love to watch Super Soul Sunday on Oprah’s OWN network.  For the past several Sundays I’ve been watching the mini series A New Earth with Oprah and Eckhart Tolle.  It’s been really eye opening and I look forward to it every week.

I recently came across this post on Facebook:


This short film clip really made me see the ego in a whole new perspective. The ego, whom lives inside us all, does not define who we truly are. Recognizing this will be so profound for you.  Any time you begin to speak or act out of anger, anxiety or fear, recognize that this is not you—It is your ego and you are not your ego.

As seen on Modern Immortal

As seen on Modern Immortal

In the words of my husband:

4.14.14 ego quote

You truly are not your ego. Your ego exists in the past and in the future and that’s when you allow it to have hold over you.  Learn to be present and watch the ego dip away.

Next week I will delve more into the power of the ego and ways to silence that inner voice that causes you to be anxious, nervous, afraid, etc.

Until next time, have magical moments!

Xoxo 🙂

The POWER of WORRY to Attract What You DON’T Want

4.9.14 Your Worries are Powerful

Have you ever noticed how when you worry about something happening to you, that’s usually what happens? Doesn’t that stink!? And, unfortunately, that’s usually what we notice the most—the things we didn’t want happening, happening—even though we are constantly attracting good circumstances to us all the time too.

Take it from me, “the worry queen,” worry does no good! While I have been a worrier most of my life, I finally learned the hard way how powerful my worrying can affect me…physically.

Getting dressed up club style, platform heels and all, for my best friend’s bachelorette party in NYC, I kept stressing about falling and breaking an ankle or something while wearing my heels; I’m not one to wear heels more than a few times a year and this was one of those occasions. I even stuffed into the pockets of my coat my flip flops, my more usual style of footwear, in case my feet were killing me and I had to change my shoes.

Ass seen on Natalet...

Ass seen on Natalet…

One of the girls that was with us grabbed me by the shoulders as were getting ready to leave for the club and said, “Mar, you are not allowed to stress tonight! You are here to enjoy yourself and that is what you are going to do. Everything is going to be fine!” I thanked her for the reminder that snapped me out of my negative state and ended up having a great time dancing the night away till 5 am…without falling or tripping once.

It wasn’t until we got home that my worry magnet brought my worries to life, like there was a delay in the universe’s delivery system.

While stepping out onto the balcony when we got back to the apartment, with my flip flops on at that point, oddly enough, I fell on the side of my ankle and come to find out the next day, after being encouraged by my husband to go to the ER, that I fractured my ankle in 3 places; my first broken bone ever.

At first I didn’t make the connection between my thoughts only hours prior to my broken ankle and its actual “breaking point,” but once it dawned on me, I realized how powerful my worrying had been in attracting exactly what I was worrying about, exactly what I DIDN’T want to happen!

So, let my painful, drawn out experience be a lesson to you—whatever you focus on, whether it be a positive or negative thing, you will eventually manifest it in your life. It may not be as clear or severe as a broken bone, but the sooner you pay attention to the way you think and feel and act and the way things play out in your life, the sooner you will realize how powerful you truly are. Like any great king or queen, it is important to not abuse your power so don’t let negativity rule your mind, heart and soul because its power can make or “break” you! Haha

Here’s to the power of positive thought attracting happy things into our live

The Importance of Addressing Limiting Beliefs in Order to Attract Your Desires

4.2.14 Limiting BeliefsHave you ever wanted something so badly—to hit a home run, to win that certain prize at a raffle, to attract more clients at work—but 9 times of out 10 you don’t get what you hope for? Even when you used visualization to FEEL what it is like to have those things already, and you imagine and SPEAK as if they are already true facts, why are your wishes still not fulfilled most of the time?

The reason is because you don’t truly BELIEVE you can have, or deserve, or can be what you are aiming for. It is your belief system that gets in the way of your goals.  Essentially, you are TELLING the Universe what you want while exuding an energy that is contradictory.

Feeling is the language of the soul, so if you have any doubts about accomplishing your ultimate goals, those doubts will be expressed in your feelings, or subconscious beliefs. Those limiting beliefs you have will affect your end result, which will probably be you not getting what you want.

Your subconscious limiting beliefs will affect your feelings, which will then affect your actions. While dreaming about your ideal end result is great, if you don’t take proactive steps toward attaining your goals and fulfilling your desires, you are preventing positive outcomes for yourself.  But, if your heart really doesn’t believe you can attain what you want, your actions will be full of trepidation, fear, negativity, and dubiousness.

To address your negative, limiting beliefs such as, “I never win anything,” or “I can never get ahead,” or “There’s no way I can do this,” do some tapping to help clear those negative beliefs and fears and replace them with a new, positive perspective or try using a negativity analysis to address your lack of belief in yourself.

In the meantime, keep working on honing your awareness skills and acting on the signs of Magicality that present themselves to you in the form of sudden opportunities, “coincidental” meetings or new introductions, or internal guidance from within yourself.

We believe in you…it’s time you start really believing in yourself!

Here’s to creating UNlimited, positive beliefs!

 

 

Attracting Your Purpose to You…

3.19.14 Purposeful StepsSince I was a teenager, I was consumed by the desire to “find myself;” I just wanted to know what my purpose was, and still do.  Are you like this too?  Do you agonize over decisions in your life because you are not sure whether to follow that “inner voice,” the one that is driven by your heart, or the logical critic, the one that makes “the most sense” in many ways but isn’t necessarily aligned with your purpose.

I’ve been experiencing this duality in my life a lot lately—run-ins with my heart and my mind—and I’ve been feeling as if the life decisions that I will possibility be faced with in the coming months will determine the rest of my life and it has been scaring me tremendously.

Ironically, I recently picked up a journal that on the front says, “Live your Dream, Discover your Purpose”—a Sign of Magicality?  Quite possibly.  This is what I wrote in this same journal when an inspired thought floated into my head as I laid down to sleep:

“Every step in life is a purposeful step in the right direction.  All things are connected—every move you make, every decision.  And although it can be hard to believe things will work out, they will.  It might not be in the order you expect or include the steps you figured on but you will always be brought to where you should be.

Don’t fret about all the possible challenges you could face ahead, or stress about things working out how you hope.  Have faith in the decisions you make, as you make them, because they make you who you are.

Nothing is for naught.  Everything has a purpose.  If something isn’t forever it is because it wasn’t meant to be forever.  Let that fact stand.  It is okay.  Just ride the wave to the next place you are meant to go, enjoy it while it lasts and then allow yourself to move on when the time comes; allow yourself to evolve, to grow, to learn, to experience and teach!

We all have something to share and where you are in each moment of your life, and what you know at that time, is exactly what is meant to be.

So believe in the purpose of everything.  Be aware and follow the Signs of Magicality as they present themselves to you.  Allow things to unfold on their own, without feeling the need to be in control of every aspect of everything, all the time.  Have faith in the divine within you, guiding you down the correct paths and offering you signs to follow.

I hope these words can bring you the comfort they brought me, and help you feel less trapped by your decisions.

Here’s to finding joy and gratitude in every one of your purposeful steps!

How Becoming More Aware of Your Body Will Help You Attract What You Want

3.12.14 Body AwarenessHave you ever noticed how your body feels when you are watching a suspenseful or scary movie?  When I stop and tune into my body when I am watching a scary movie or a fight scene that I have to look away from, the muscles in my whole body are often clenched and tense; I am not in a relaxed, comfortable state.

What about when you are replaying in your mind a confrontation you may have had with a someone that you don’t see eye to eye with, have you ever taken notice of the way your body feels when you are saying all those negative, angry things in your head over and over?  If you haven’t, I suggest you try it.  It’s amazing what you will learn about the connection between your mind and body.

I first learned the importance of tuning into my body and being in the moment while reading The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle.  I was living in my old house at the time and, I kid you not, literally ever time, while laying in bed at night, when I would remember to tune into my body so that I could make sure it was relaxed, I would always hear the train that ran past our neighborhood about half a mile away, no matter what time of night it was.

Once it past the, “That’s a weird coincidence” state after this happened a hand full of times, I actually got to the point of expecting to hear the train as soon as I released all the tension I may have been holding in my body, tension I often had no idea was even there till I really took the time to check in with myself and see.  The train became a cool Sign of Magicality for me that I was really present, in the moment at that time, and I was grateful for and enjoyed its reminder.

As seen on Amazing Asset...

As seen on Amazing Asset…

Part of being able to attract what you want is being in the moment; when you are living in the past or wishing for the future, you are pushing things away from you.  Not being in the moment means you are ungrateful for the place you are in right now and that you have lost touch with yourself and your greater source.  You will not be able to attract your desires if you are not appreciative of the now and if you are disconnected from your body, your soul.

By taking a moment to really BE in your BODY, to let it speak to you by showing you what is going on with it—the pains, the tense muscles, your posture, whatever it is it has to share with you, you are making a conscious effort to reconnect with the Universe and it is when that connection is strong that the magic happens.

Start practicing taking a moment to stop, every so often, and see what is going on with your body.  Your body will instantly react to your thoughts and emotions, and vice versa…and, the Universe will instantly react to all of it!  So, take a deep breath, relax your body, flip your magnet so it is smiling and you will attract your desires!

Here’s to raising our awareness and reaping the benefits!

Hang Up Your Worry-Towel and Dress Yourself in The Present Moment

1.22.14 Worry TowelAre you a worrier?  Do you try to plan things out, living in the future, so that you can avoid pitfalls and problems?  Are you constantly thinking about all the “what ifs” that every situation and circumstance carries with it?

Uhh, man, if so, you are in good company!  I was always a “planner” and a worrier…even as a very young child.  I didn’t like to put myself in situations that I might get physically hurt in or look “stupid” by making a mistake (this is still a work-in-progress for me).

One of the older kids in our neighborhood group actually nicknamed me “lecture woman” because I was always telling everyone to “be care” and that they shouldn’t do whatever it was they were doing, if they were doing the wrong thing, because they were going to get in trouble.  I was so young, I didn’t even know what “lecture” meant!

As seen on Q'ued Up! ...

As seen on Q’ued Up! ...

For someone who had “worrying” so ingrained in her, in my thoughts, in my emotions, in my every cell of my body, it was not easy to just stop worrying.  After all, I was a worrier, it was one of the ways I described myself, it was who I was.

It wasn’t until I really became aware, on my own, how my worrying was really affecting my life and the quality of my living it that I became ready, and committed, to changing this trait of mine.   By worrying all the time, I was essentially keeping my focus on all the negative possibilities that I could encounter in the future.

I was never allowing myself to live in the NOW; I wasn’t allowing myself to fully enjoy the good experiences in my life because I was always so caught up in planning to try to ensure good experiences in the future.

Luckily, we have Magicality, and our own personal Magnets as our guide.  Worry is a negative thing and your Magicality Magnet abides so whatever you worry will happen, your magnet will quickly flip to a frown and coordinate with the Universe to call that worry into reality.

So, don’t allow your Magnet to make those worries and concerns come true.  Worrying about the future robs you of the present moment!  Don’t allow your worries to take over.  Stop them dead in their tracks.  Ask yourself when you notice yourself worrying which way your Magnet is pointing while you worry and decide if that’s the way you want it to be and flip accordingly.

Stop the endless worry cycle! Start living in the now, a positive now, a now filled with present moment happiness and appreciation!  Strive to cut back your worries and live more in the moment.  If I can do it, you definitely can too!

Thanks for being with me, in this moment, reading my post! I am grateful for your presence!

“The Universe is My Name, Fulfilling Orders is My Game”

1.8.14 Check Please

If you’re like most people, we’ve all experienced, at least once in our life, a time when money felt hard to come by, like you were working so hard and it just didn’t seem to be paying off in dollar signs.  When this happens, our faith in the “All Mighty, All Abundant” Universe starts to waver and we start to stress about money…I know I catch it happening to me.

Being new homeowners, the holiday season took its toll on us a bit more this year than usual and that sense of “lack” and “needing money” mindset was starting to wrap its tentacles around my magnet and flip it for the worse.  But, before the Lack Monster was able to really take me down, the Universe went, “And totally redeemed itself!” (In the words of Harry Dunne, in “Dumb and Dumber”)

Unexpectedly, in the mail, I received a rebate check, albeit its small dollar figure, I still took it as a sign of Magicality, that there is money out there for me and that it is coming my way.  And, before I was finished opening all the mail, on that same rebate-check-day, I opened an unexpected card from my grandfather with a $100 money order in it!

I was instantly floored by the situation and my good fortune; I was floored by the power of the Universe to deliver me unexpected gifts when I needed them the most!  And, boy, did that Lack Monster retreat like a vampire on the first signs of daybreak.

This experience couldn’t help but remind me of our Magicality Moment #11: Have Faith At All Times.  I love the analogy that Rayna used; the Universe is a reliable company that you place an order with and it always delivers.

It is so important to be aware of your thoughts and emotions, the energy you are projecting out into the universe, because you will get what you ask for, what you “think” for, what you are “feeling” for.  The shipping time can vary but like the USPS, rain or shine, good or bad, your order will be delivered, without a doubt.  All you need is faith in the end result!

So, get clear about what kind of order you are placing because your order is not necessarily refundable or returnable.  The Universe will fulfill your request whether you like it or not so make your choices carefully and make them really count!

Here’s to checks in the mail! Cha-ching!

Attract Compliments and Accept Them With Positivity

12.18.13 Compliments

If you are like me, it always makes me feel good when I receive a compliment—my hair looks great, I look like I lost weight, that color brings out the color of my eyes, etc.

Recently, I’ve become aware that whenever I receive a compliment, I have trouble just accepting it; unfortunately, I always say thank you and then I usually go and negate the positive remark with a negatively charged comment.

For example, someone recently complimented me on my hair, telling me that they loved my curls.  While I was appreciative of the comment, and thanked the person, I didn’t leave it at that.  I began to explain how the weather was making it kind of frizzy that day and how I really needed to get my color done because my roots are so long.  Essentially, I went and totally ruined the comment with all my negative retorts.

But, I am not going to get down on myself for being negative when I receive a compliment.  Instead, I am going to be appreciative of the fact that I became aware, on my own, of the way I was handling compliments and that I am now making a conscious effort to be grateful for the comment and simply say, “thank you for the compliment,” and leave it at that; I am not going to allow that sabotaging negative voice in my head push its way through and out my mouth.

By receiving the compliments you get with warmth and positivity, your energy expresses to the Universe that you enjoy receiving compliments and your positivity will attract more circumstances, a.k.a compliments, to keep this positive cycle flowing.

So, the next time someone compliments you, be aware of your reaction.  Did you follow your thank you with a negative response?  Did you say thank you but then think the negative response only to yourself, which equals the same thing as saying it out loud.  Or were you just grateful for the compliment and let the positive energy wash over you? Your reaction will determine whether compliments flow freely to you, or slip-slide away.

I’m proud of your wonderful acceptance-of-compliment skills! Keep up the good work! (wink)

Playing Truth or Dare with The Universe…

12.11.13 Truth or Dare

Have you ever played Truth or Dare?  I never was a fan of the game because I felt I was cornered with either choice; you never know what to expect if you choose “Dare” but sometimes the “Truth” can be just as scary as the dare might be.

The interesting thing about that game is that you have no control over the dare but you do have control over your truths.  Your truths are created each moment of your life.  They are your past, present and future.  You have had a hand in all of it, whether you like it or not.

Unlike people, the Universe does not play Truth or Dare.  It has no interest in Dares.  The Universe only believes in Truth; that is all that it is interested in from you and all it will ever offer you.

The Universe believes in being truthful with you at all times therefore it will always prove you to be right; whatever you believe in your thoughts, in your mind, in your soul, in your senses, in your emotions, the Universe will show you only things to prove you right.

The Universe will never lie to you.  All that happens in your life is a reflection of your thoughts; it is your truth. Your world around you is living proof.

But, you can decide, at every point in time, in every moment, what your truth is. So, because of this power, because of this special ability, you are able at any moment in time to recreate your truth.

Be who you want to be. Think those positive things that you wish to be truth. Make them your truth. Be positive instead of assuming the worst. Allow yourself to be the best YOU you can be, with all the best things.

Make every statement in your head a positive truth because the Universe will make it so! Whatever you wish for will be reflected back at you by the Universe, because the Universe only ever tells the Truth, so make it a good wish!

May all your wishes be positive and truthful!

Laissez Faire Lifestyle: An Often Overlooked Aspect of the Law of Attraction

11.20.13 Laissez Faire

Some of you may remember hearing the term “Laissez-Faire” in your high school history and economics classes.  This French term dates back to the 17th century but became more common in English-speaking countries in the late 18th century.  There are many interpretations of its definition.

Economically speaking, the term would mean “leave it be,” and encourages little restrictions by the government on economic transactions between private parties, or a “hands-off” approach.

In the Magicality sense, Laissez-Faire means not interfering with the universe; let it do its job, follow the signs it presents to you and it will lead you on the path you are meant to be on.

As seen on Helpful

As seen on Helpful

Be detached and objective.  Don’t worry about all the possibilities and the “what ifs.”  Don’t try to plan things out too much or try to make things happen.  Have faith in this natural system; let go of worry and let the universe figure it out for you!

By not getting in the way of the universe, and therefore yourself, you are enabling the incredible power of the universe and human potential to be unleashed!  All you need to do is set the intention of what you would like to have, or have happen, and then intervene as little as possible until it is time to act on the opportunities that are presented to you.

And, don’t worry, they will come when the time is right, but you must be aware of them!  It may be in an unexpected way, because the universe loves to test our intuitive abilities and make sure our senses are tuned into everything around us, but everything we hope will happen, will happen!

Follow the signs of Magicality because they will never steer you wrong!

Peace, and may Laissez Faire be with you!