Confronting Your Negative Emotions to Attract Better Things Into Your Life: Part 1

2.24.14 Man with good and bad on shoulder

As you have read over and over in my blogs, I always say that recognition is the first step to change.  If you recognize that something’s stressing out you need to confront it.

If you try to think of positive thoughts and that doesn’t help you change your frame of mind and flip your Magicality Magnet, then try to do something that always gets you in a good, positive mood.

If doing that action still doesn’t get your thoughts back to positive, you may need to delve further into what’s bugging you to finally move past the negative thoughts.

If you ignore this, it may always come up for you over and over when you least expect it.  And when that happens, it blocks you from really attracting all that you desire.

So today, I am going to teach you how to perform something called a Negativity Analysis.  I learned how to do this process when I took the courses on my Law of Attraction Practitioner Certification.

Before learning this, I allowed some negative thoughts reoccur over and over.  Now that I know how to do this, it changed my life, as well as many others that I have taught.

And today, you are going to learn how to perform your own negativity analysis.

Here are the Steps:
Step 1:

Go to a quiet place where you will not be distracted.

Step 2:

Sit down and ask yourself:

Why am I unhappy? What is making me unhappy at this moment?  

Ex: If you are stressed say “I am extremely stressed right now because ______”

If you are angry say “I am extremely angry right now because _________”.

Identify the negative emotion you are feeling and the cause of the emotion.

Step 3:

After identifying the emotion, keep it with you and embrace it as you come face to face with it.  Describe the negative emotion in visual terms (shape, size, color, smell).  What does it look like?  What does it feel like?  Allow it to show itself to you until you can completely describe it.

Step 4:  

As you have recognition of the negative emotion or experience it will slowly begin to disappear. Before it can completely go, however, you have to let it speak to you.  Don’t be afraid. Just let it speak and learn from what it is telling you. Once you have learned from these negative emotions they no longer have a place in your mind and body and therefore will disappear.

You will have an amazing feeling overcome you as you release these negative emotions.  And sometimes, the negative emotions are so deeply ingrained within you that it may take several times of repeating this analysis before you can complete all of these steps.

But trust the process.  Even if it does take you multiple times, it will happen.  Next week I will explain my first experience using this analysis for my own life so stay tuned!

Until next time, Have a Magical Day!

With Love xoxo 🙂

Law of Attraction Challenge #6: Learn How To Do EFT Tapping & Use It This Week

2.7.2014 EFT

EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques, is a wonderful energy psychology tool that often works when nothing else does.  It is an emotional version of acupuncture but there are no needles involved–it is totally non-invasive, gentle, portable and can be learned by anyone, even children.

What you are doing with EFT is mentally tuning into specific issues such as pain or memories that evoke negative emotions, and then stimulating certain energy meridian points on the body by tapping on them with your fingertips.

Our bodies are “electrical” in nature, and just like the wiring in your house, our bodies have circuits that energy flows through.  Have you ever plugged too many things into one outlet and blown a fuse then had to go to the electrical panel and flip the breaker back?  Well, the circuits in our bodies can get overwhelmed too, preventing the smooth flow of energy–essentially causing a blown fuse.

Those headaches you always get that interfere with your daily life, the intense sensation of butterflies in your stomach anytime you have to speak to a group of people, the anger you always feel and don’t know why–these can all be the result of a disruption in your energy system.  EFT is what we use to “flip the breaker” on our preverbal “blown fuses”–it’s like a Do-Over switch…it’s magical and I am in love with it!

Please check out the Youtube video included here to learn the basics of tapping–you will be surprised how quickly you can learn how to use it!

After becoming familiar with tapping, try to use it this week!  It is your Law of Attraction Challenge this week!  Try it for anything! Try tapping before you go to bed, when things are quiet and you can take a few minutes for yourself.  Please let us know how it goes for you and about your results!

If you are interested in working with someone, I am an EFT practitioner and would love to work with you!  Please email me at Mary@talesofmagicality.com

Here’s to Tap, Tap, Tapping!

When Rancid Lemons Produce Delicious Lemonade…

2.5.14 Sweet EndingsHave you ever had what you thought was a “bad” circumstance turn out to lead you to something incredibly positive and opportunistic?

It is easy to get caught up in the negative when you feel it is being piled on you and that you are starting to sink but when you refuse to be weighed down by situations that are testing your strength of positivity, often the greatest clarity and solutions to unanswered questions arise.

This happened in my life a few months ago.  My son was having terrible anxiety about getting on the bus in the morning—it was a new routine for him since we used to walk to school in our old house.  I have been using EFT tapping for about 5 years; it is a stress-relief tool that is a cousin of acupuncture, you tap on the end-points of the energy meridians on your body which helps to balance your energy system and bring you peace.  I was tapping with my son, which brought him some relief but I was apparently having trouble getting to the core issue that was causing him to still be upset at times.

As seen on Help Me Grow...

As seen on Help Me Grow…

I decided to look into finding an EFT Practitioner that perhaps specialized in working with children; I thought it might be worth paying a professional to help him clear this problem once and for all.  I hated seeing him so distressed and upset.

While looking on the Internet, I found only two practitioners that fulfilled this request.  To my surprise, one was located in NY, close to where we live (it is not necessary to tap with someone in person—it can be done over the phone, or Skype as well).  While checking out her website, I came to a page that said she was holding a 3-Day EFT Workshop for FREE and I hadn’t missed it!  I was so incredibly excited!  I had never been to a workshop and been surrounded by other people who love tapping as much as I do!

As seen on Tap Into EFT...

As seen on Tap Into EFT…

It also said that attending this workshop would count toward some of the requirements for becoming an EFT practitioner, if you chose to do that.  While I have truly loved EFT since the first time I used it years ago, and it has made a remarkable difference in my life that I am incredibly grateful for, I had never really allowed myself to seriously consider being a practitioner…until now.

In the end, while my son’s anxiety wasn’t a good thing, I am grateful for it because it has enabled me to pursue this passion of mine and it is turning out to be something that I am naturally good at.  I am almost done with all of the requirements to be a Certified EFT Practitioner! Plus, Bo’s anxiety seemed to melt away as well…icing on the Magicality cake!

Hitting a Home Run

As seen on EMSI…

So, when life throws you a curve ball, or hands you some rancid lemons, don’t assume it will be your third strike or that the lemons are “bad” and deserve to be thrown away, follow that swing through to the end cause it may turn out to be a home run that you hit, or the lemonade that quenches your thirsty soul like nothing else ever!

Here’s to bad pitches sent over the fence and surprisingly delicious lemonade made from rotten lemons!

Attracting Positivity from Unexpected Places

10.16.13 Happy Lady in Grass

Is there a place that you dread to go to because it always seems to challenge your positivity?  Somewhere that the people all seem to have frowning Magnets and no matter how good you were feeling before you got there, you always seem to have your feel-good-feelings chipped away at instantly by this place and the people there?

For me, this place was Costco on Staten Island, NY (my old hometown).  I would rather cross the bridge and drive to New Jersey to go to Costco than cross the negativity threshold that was the Staten Island Costco parking lot.

Going there meant that I could expect to be surrounded by rude, self-centered people, a crazy parking lot and a fast paced, congested store that even Speedy Gonzales would have trouble navigating.  Are you getting the picture now?  Did a place like this come to mind for you?

As seen on Lifehack.org

As seen on Lifehack.org

In hindsight, I now realize how I was completely attracting this outcome to myself whenever I decided to go to that Costco.  I would let my Magicality Magnet immediately begin to teeter after making the decision to shop there.  It’s like my thoughts sent the signal to the movie projector worker to change the films from a happy shopping experience to the “I HATE THIS PLACE!” movie, and that’s exactly what I got, every time.

Unfortunately, at the time, I wasn’t as aware of my thoughts and the law of attraction like I am now so I just usually did my best to avoid that Costco.

I am in love with my new hometown; everyone is extremely friendly and, for the most part, do nothing but contribute to raising my, and my family’s, energy vibration.  Because everyone, everywhere, is so great, it really stands out when I go someplace that doesn’t seem to live up to those high standards.

This place in my new hometown would be Shoprite.  It seems that the times I’ve shopped in there, my positive vibes are not reflected back to me when I share a warm smile with someone I pass or speak politely when someone is in my way.  Instead, I get emotionless looks and people ignoring me.  And, oddly enough, my husband shared with me that he had similar experiences the times he had shopped there.  But, today was different.

Today, when I made my list and informed my husband that I would be running to the store, I set the intention of having a wonderful experience at Shoprite and my intentions were met with smiling magnets.

First, someone quickly pulled into a parking spot that I was going to take and when I began to drive by her, she quickly rolled down her window and apologized; her kind gesture put a smile on my face which then landed me a parking spot right in front of the store.  And the trip just got better from there; everyone was friendly, polite and exuded a brighter energy.  I was so happy to come home and update my husband on my wonderful Shoprite experience.

Let my example be a lesson for you to learn from.  Living the Law of Attraction, living Magicality, is an ongoing journey; we all evolve at our own speed.  It took me some time but I got here and so can you!  So set the intention for a good experience the next time you have to go to that place that tests your positivity, keep your spirits high and your Magnet smiling at everyone, and EXPECT something wonderful!

Happy Manifesting!